Monthly Archives: November 2018

Does your child have any Intense Interests?

I came across an article, on psychology-spot.com, that I found interesting and I wanted to share.  “Being obsessed with dinosaurs enhances kids’ intelligence”.

The article explains that the incredible knowledge of children on a specific subject is called “Intense Interests”, a strong motivation for a specific topic. “In fact, a third of children develop at some stage throughout their childhood, as a general rule between 2 and 6 years of age…”

In some cases, that interest is not extinguished in childhood but accompanies them for a large part of their lives.  They are those people who have always had a passion that, in a certain way, has served as a guiding thread and refuge over the years.

In reality, it does not matter what the object of that passion is, what is really important is the effort that children dedicate and the passion they experience.

An investigation carried out at the universities of Indiana and Wisconsin proved that intense interests are very beneficial for the intellectual development of children.

In practice, this type of interests, especially those that demand a conceptual domain as is the case of dinosaurs, not only make that the child have more knowledge about a certain subject but also enhance perseverance, improve attention and enhance skills of complex thinking as the processing of information. It has also been proven that linguistic skills are significantly improved and are an indicator of high understanding.

In fact, these psychologists explain that the way in which some children study dinosaurs or any other object of interest, in reality reveals the strategy that they will then use to face new situations and problems throughout their lives.

The wall against which intense interests clash

An Investigation carried out by psychologists from the universities of Virginia and Yale, revealed that the intense interests in childhood do seem to be mediated by the interests of the parents, since they usually appear during the first year of life without the parents having encouraged them.  In fact, some of those interest are rare for the parents themselves.

The bad news…Only 20% of children are still passionate about the same issues as they grow up.  In most cases the end of the  passion comes with schooling.

Apparently, when children start studying, they have much less free time to devote to their “investigations”.  To this is added that they understand that school requires a broader knowledge but also more superficial and often their interests do not fit within the school curriculum, so they just end up abandoning them.

Click on the link (the article title) to read the article in it’s entirety. It has suggestions on how to nurture these intense interests.


 

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#Determination Quote & Video of the week


 

“You’ve got to get up every morning with Determination if you’re going to go to be with Satisfaction.”-George Lorimer

Determination Definition: 1. Firmness of purpose,  Resoluteness  2. The process of establishing something exactly, typically calculation or research.

How often do we wake up with determination?  Do you ever think about it?  Is it automatic with you or do you take a few moments in the morning to plan our your day?  Use the voting  buttons to answer!

Strong Determination Video

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The Cutest Wishes Ever

Thanksgiving Day

Part of my family duties at Thanksgiving is carving the turkey. It’s usually an uneventful part of my day. My encounter with 2 curious girls would change that uneventful part into an experience that I felt compelled to share.

Curiosity

I was wearing my blue crab apron and armed with an electric knife. Curiosity took over and a little girl stops and asks me what I was doing. It appeared she lost interest quickly when she turned and ran off. To my surprise, she returned quickly with her cousin who was just as cute and curious.

They watched me as I cut the turkey and asked questions, one of which was “can I have a piece?” With a smile, I said sure and handed them a piece. Sharing in this moment, my beautiful niece, who was helping me and adding to the cuteness of the moment. My adult niece shared the same first name with one of the little girls, which piqued her interest.

Making a wish

I am a master at deboning a bird and reached the wishbone quickly.  I held up the bone and asked the girls if they wanted to make a wish on the wishbone. The look on their faces when I was holding the bone out to them, clearly expressed they have never heard of the wishbone before. The look said something like “I am not touching that thing”. By this point, their parents have gathered around us to see what the girls were up to.  I began to tell them about the wishbone tradition and watched their expressions change to delighted with an “I’m in” look.  So they each grabbed a side of the bone, went silent working on their wishes as their parents are enjoying and capturing the moment with snapshots.  

Well, turkey bones aren’t quite as giving as chicken bones so we had a little disappointing outcome.  I assured them that it was okay and that meant both wishes would come true. A few moments later when it was just the four of us again, I asked them what they wished for.  One immediately said she wished for butterflies, which I thought was one of the sweetest wishes I had ever heard.  Then I asked the 2nd little girl what she wished for and she said, “I wished that I will have a friend forever”.  At that point me and my niece looked at each and simultaneously let out an “AWWWW” and then we both laughed.

 

Adult wishes put into perspective

That sweet moment made us put our adult wishes into perspective. I forget how simplicity can be so joyful. Yes, I walked around and shared that story all day. I hope you enjoyed reading about my experience and that you had some great experiences at Thanksgiving as well.

Please, feel free to share your stories with me in the comments. I would love to hear about them.

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#GivingTuesday 2018


 

Happy Thanksgiving!  How do you give thanks?

There is Black Friday, Cyber Monday and #GivingTuesday.  Be a part of a Global Giving Movement!  Give to your favorite Charities Nov. 27, 2018.  Some of my favorite Charities:

#ThePeaceFund – Donate link

#CatholicCharities – Archdioceses of New Orleans Donate Link

#SecondHarvestFoodBank – New Orleans Donate Link

Not sure what your community needs?  Click here  #GivingTuesday or  Google it!  You know Google; right? (Always verify that your choices are truly a non profit organization with proper paperwork.  It’s unfortunate but there are many scammers out there.)Facebooklinkedinyoutubeinstagramby feather
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Happy Thanksgiving

In observance of Thanksgiving, I wanted to take some time to reflect on 2018.  There were some tough times and some tragic moments but there are also many things to be thankful for.  As emotional, human beings, we tend to focus on the bad stuff, the things that hurt us the most, the things that leave a scar.  Pushing those moments aside; take a few minutes to reflect on the things that made you smile and made you feel good in 2018.  Think about those fleeting moments that were special.  Close your eyes, hold onto those memories, and focus your energy right there.

Tomorrow, during your family and friend gatherings, step out of the center of it and watch the interactions for a few moments.  Enjoy watching the children run around and play, appreciate the elderly that are still with us, soak in the laughter.  Look for sadness and spend some time with that person who may be struggling with something.  Think about the things that you appreciate about each person and share it with them.  This is such a powerful experience when done in a group.

Remember, everyone you know may not have family close by, so invite them to spend the day with your family.  Holidays can be rough on the lonely.

I hope Thanksgiving 2018 will be a wonderful, treasured, day that you can carry with you until Thanksgiving 2019.

Leave a comment if you like:  share a special moment that came to mind during your reflection, share an intention that you will plan to put into action tomorrow.  I would love to hear your feedback

A reader asked if I could add more content and examples, so, with pleasure, I am updating this story:

I shared a story from Thanksgiving day that everyone can read called “The Cutest Wishes Ever”   Click on the link and it will bring you to that blog.

This story is a perfect example of how I interact with children to share their joy.

My intent on sharing things that you appreciate about people came from a training class that is intended to help improve attitudes and gratification. In a group, you can take turns sharing something you admire about each person in the group.  This can be timely depending on the size of the group.  So, to avoid a long drawn-out exercise and to keep everyone’s attention, I would have each person express their thoughts (only positive thoughts) and admiration to the person sitting to the right of them.  Once they were done we would move on to the next person.  If you are sitting in a circle it helps keep the exercise in an orderly fashion and everyone gets to say and hear something about themselves.  This exercise can be done with small groups or large groups.  You could even do this at the dinner table instead of asking how their day was to change it up a little.

I hope this helps you, your family, and friends explore each other’s feelings of thankfulness.

 


 

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Room Atmosphere for Better #Sleep

Did you know that your room atmosphere can set you up for better sleep, or even sabotage it? According to an article I came across in the July/August 2018 issue of Health Magazine, you can “set yourself up for snoozing success by arranging the most restful room possible.”

Block Out Noise

“….Even if you don’t wake up, noise can disrupt your slumber and cause restlessness, increased heart rate and blood pressure, and changes in breathing patterns, explains Cralle.”These interruptions can lead to fragmented sleep, which makes it harder to reach the deeper, more restorative stages.”” 

Take A Whiff

“Create a bedtime ritual…….30 minutes before sacking out is a simple effective way to cue the body to rest, says Sara Panton, essential – oil expert and co-founder of Vitruvi. Not only are there certain scents that encourage drowsiness, but the very act of setting up a routine helps signal to your brain that it’s time to start shutting off.”

Blend of Essential oil Scents that Panton suggests: “7 drops of lavender, 4 drops of frankincense, 4 drops of cedar wood, 2 drops of bergamot.”

There are many different types of products you can buy that emit scents.  I am a big fan of natural sources such as plants and flowers.  This article suggest diffusing essential oils.  I am not making any recommendations on what to use. You do the research and choose a source that best suits you. If you have pets in the home make sure you do the research on essential oils.  I am not an expert on the matter but, I have come across some concerns online.  Whether there is any truth to it, I do not know.    However, I do not recommend any chemicals such as air fresheners, candles, etc.  Visit the American Lung Associations website to further educate yourself on common household products that contribute to indoor air pollution. 

Stay Slightly Chilled

“Body temperature regularly fluctuates throughout the day-it’s usually at its highest in the afternoon and lowest in the early a.m.  So if your room is hot, your body will work all night to cool down-and if your’re sweating, you’re more likely to wake up.  The sweet spot: 65 degrees, according to the National Sleep Foundation.”

Improve Ventilation

“Room Stuffiness can hike nasal congestion and hinder your ability to breathe while you doze.  Per a study in the journal Indoor Air, people who kept their window open overnight felt more alert the next morning than they did when it had been kept closed.  If you live in a city and opening your window exposes you to noise, crack it open for 15 minutes during the day instead.  No windows? No problem.  Invest in a plant like a peace lily, which naturally purifies air. ” 

Dim The Lights Early

“Not only does light send “stay awake” alerts to the brain, it also has an effect on circadian rhythm” (read my blog on When to eat, when not to eat to better understand the circadian rhythm) “which controls your body’s natural sleep-wake cycle, explains Lawrence Epstein, MD, assistant medical director of Brigham and Women’s Hospital.  Brightness also stops the production of melatonin (the tired hormone), suppressing your sleep signal.  While you actually kill the lights when you get in bed, you actually need to dim them much sooner.  Switch from overhead lights to lamps around dinnertime to help your body wind down.” Facebooklinkedinyoutubeinstagramby feather
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Visualizing a Memory @ Travaasa

Visualizing a memory

Visualizing;

  • At times it’s empowering
  • At times it’s calming and relaxing

Today, it was calming and relaxing.  It started at the edge of the infinity pool when I closed my eyes and opened my ears.  My thoughts focused on the noise of the water while it was cascading over the edge and crashing down to the pool below.  The sound at the edge drowned out the voices around me.  Then I focused on the breeze blowing up over my back and my shoulders.  I decided to pick a memory that came to mind and invoked the visual of a moment in time.

I am suddenly transported to the beach; Maui, Hawaii.   The waves are rolling in, the water is refreshingly cold, almost shockingly cold which resulted in goosebumps.  The water is clear and vibrant blue.  I see sail surfers jumping waves, and parachute surfers flying sky high after hitting the top of the waves thinking how exciting and brave that must be. I soaked up the moment and cherished the memory.

While enjoying my relaxing, resort retreat at Travaasa, visualizing a memory added another dimension to the accomplished, high level of relaxation already achieved, and also raised the success level of my agenda and goal for this trip.

Give visualizing a try.  Let moments, sounds, and smells trigger memories and thoughts. Ride the wave!

Add that to my list of Been There Done That!

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Focus on the Solutions Not the Problems

Identify the problem, move to the solutions

“Identify your problems but give your power and energy to solutions.”-Tony Robbins click on the title to watch video.

-Tony Robbins

When I was a manager, I worked towards leading my team towards the solutions.  It is easy to get stuck on the problem. People are aggravated, they want to tell their story, and it leads to focusing on the problem.  Once the problem is described and understood, move the team towards focusing on solutions.  Let the team come up with resolutions and decide which is the best solution for the team, and the company.  Ask them questions:

  • if you had this to do over again, what would you do differently?
  • What do you recommend we do to overcome this problem?
  • Do you have any ideas on solutions to move forward?

Happy Monday!

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Are you thirsty or hungry? You may be thirsty.

Mixed signals

Years ago, I discovered that when I feel cravings for food come over me it was really my body dehydrating and was sending me mixed signals.  I went looking for an article that can help explain the process and found one on www.livestrong.com

“Thirst Occurs when your body needs water.  When you do not drink enough water, your body receives mixed signals of hunger.  Dehydration causes you to believe you need to eat when you really need liquid intake.  Sometimes you eat food out of boredom.  Keeping track of what you drink and eat will help stop overeating.  It will also clue in to how much you drink a day, and what your liquid needs are.”

“Dehydration Symptoms”
“Dehydration symptoms include constipation, thirst, dry skin, a sluggish feeling, dizziness, dry eyes and decreased urine output.  Drinking eight 8 oz. glasses of water a day will help prevent dehydration.  If you have these symptoms, seek medical help.  Symptoms of diabetes include dehydration.”
“Feeling Tired”
“If you do not get enough to drink on a daily basis, you will feel tired.  You will feel hungry because your body thinks it needs food for energy.  This sense of feeling tired relates to your body not taking in enough fluids, which help your body function better.  Your body’s organs need water just as a car’s engine needs fuel to run efficiently.”

-LiveStrong.com

Seek Medical/Nutritionist advice

I am not a nutritionist, I am sharing information that I think helps me feel better.  When something feels off in my body, I try to listen and seek advice on how to overcome it. Always seek medical advice when you experience changes in your health.

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