Monthly Archives: January 2016

Gary Allan’s Music Inspires me to be a Better Wife

Even though Gary Allan has a ton of hits, I am drawn to his “heartache” music.  Listening to Gary’s music inspires me to be a better wife.  Yes, I know that sounds strange, but his music communicates the pain that men feel when they lose their true love.  This inspires me to recognize how deep down my husband’s love for me goes. I want to do everything I can to let that love flourish and grow.  With that said I thought I would share some of Gary’s lyrics.

  • Watching Airplanes: “Sitting out here on the hood of this truck looking up at a caramel-colored sunset sky.  Checking my watch doing the math in my head, counting back words to when you said goodbye.  With those runway lights getting brighter, I’m just sitting out here watching airplanes take off and fly, trying to figure out which one you might be on and why you don’t love me anymore. “
  • It Ain’t the Whiskey:  “I stood there in the middle of the church full of broken people.  Listening to the walking wounded tell their stories. My turn came, I told them my name, said this ain’t my first time. Then a man started talking how the devil and the bottle was ruing my life. With last night on my breath, I stood up and said it ain’t the whiskey, it ain’t the cigarettes, it ain’t the stuff I smoke, it’s all these things I can’t forget, and it ain’t the hard times, it ain’t the all nights, it ain’t that easy, it ain’t the whiskey that’s killing me.” …………”I’ve done everything to drown out this hurt inside but I can’t wash you out of my mind.”
  • You Without Me: “Well I’ve seen that look a thousand times and I know that sparkle in your eyes and I know what it means tonight.  That’s the dress you wore when we first met and it always means you want to let your hair down, aw and you just might.  I’ve never seen you look so happy, you’ve never looked so good in love. When I look into your eyes I still get weak and when I’m this close to you I just can’t speak and it’s hard to keep my hands to myself when I know I could never love anyone else, you’re all I want, your all I need and it so damn hard to believe that’s you without me.”

Add in his raspy, southern accent, the country rock, and you feel it.

It has been my experience that men have a hard time putting into words how they feel about things and people.  It’s almost as if Gary Allan is speaking on behalf of all men in a heartache situation.

This Blog is dedicated to my hero, my love, my best friend, and my soul mate. I love you! 🙂

Catherine Bares

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Everyone has a Story!

Does your story drive your behavior?

Everyone behaves the way they do for a reason.  Everyone has a story. Just because someone is joyful and happy doesn’t mean they haven’t experienced any adversity.  It has been my experience that a person that can be resilient in the face of adversity doesn’t let those moments define them.  Instead, it’s the resilience that shapes us.

“Everyone is handed adversity in life. No one’s journey is easy. It’s how they handle it that makes people unique”.

-Kevin Conroy

Be curious, talk to people, learn their stories

I am amazed by some of the conversations that I have with strangers. For some reason, I can learn a lot about a person, quickly, in a random conversation. I think it is easier to open up to a stranger than it is to open up to a family member or friend sometimes. Check out this link I found on why that is.

What’s your story?

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What has “being a grandmother” taught me?

What has being a Grandmother taught me?

  • There are extra rooms in my heart 🙂
  • I loved my children with all of my heart but didn’t fully appreciate the joy that brings
  • As a young parent, I was caught up in chasing my dreams, working to become the person that I am today and overlooked enjoying the little moments on a deeper level.

What did I learn from my first grandchild?

  • I wasn’t too young to be a grandmother.
  • I was in the middle of the “circle” of my life.
  • A greater appreciation for being a mom
  • The heartbreak when he moved away.
  • Joy when he came back.
  • I have a weekend buddy to hang out with that never cancels.

What did I learn from my second grandchild?

  • I can love him as much as the first.
  • This is fun!
  • Mickey Mouse Rocks!
  • How my mom felt when I had my 2nd child.
  • My patience level is still tested.

What have I learned with my 3rd grandchild?

  • My youngest son is having kids; I’m getting old (NOT-I’m still in denial on this one)
  • We are a “boy” producing, family. (All boys)
  • The rooms in my heart are getting bigger, not smaller.
  • Mickey Mouse Rocks at 2 months old.
  • Life kicks into high gear and keeps on rolling.
  • I love my Boys!

Advice for my Boys!

  • As George Strait once said, “Hold on to your hats, it’s going to be a wild ride.”
  • Seek the reasons behind their behavior; the behavior is usually a symptom.
  • Boys will be boys-you were there, remember?
  • They are children.  They will misbehave, do silly things, and get on your nerves-don’t take it too seriously.
  • Hug them; they are boys but, still need hugs.
  • Praise them when they do good.
  • Teach them to say “yes Ma’am”, “no Ma’am”, “yes sir”, “no sir”, “God bless you”, “please” and “thank you”
  • Teach them how to hold a door open for a lady.
  • Never tell them you are tired of them.
  • Last but not least, just listen to them.  Even when they are babbling and making no sense, give them your attention and just listen.

Update: Grandchild # 4. Yep, It’s a Girl!

What am I learning with my 4th grandchild (granddaughter)

  • As Sean Connery once said, “Never say never”. It’s a Girl!
  • Yep, I keep adding onto the rooms in my heart.
  • Time flies.
  • A 1-week old baby’s smile is the cutest thing ever.
  • Even dogs get excited about the birth of a baby. He becomes alert and concerned whenever he hears her cry.
  • I don’t know how to buy girlie, baby clothes.
  • My worry level has no ceiling.
  • My desire to be a better person for my kids and grandkids keeps growing.
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Time to Turn On My Internal Furnace

Hello everyone,

Traveling is a part of my job; I love to meet new people and see new places so, it works wells for me.  Occasionally, I arrive at my destination early enough to get out and explore.  I live in the south and today I traveled to Northern Michigan, where it is cold and snowy.  Looking out of the window on the plane I thought, “Toto, I have a feeling we’re not in Kansas anymore.” LOL.

After checking into my hotel I opted to walk around town instead of hitting a cardio machine in the little room downstairs.  Did you know that when you get cold your body has Brown Fat that acts like a furnace and ignites white fat to keep you warm?    Instead of sweating, I decided to go get cold.

  • I pulled the following information from (Natural News) Fat gets a bad rap. It’s not only essential to life and human function but can actually burn calories and trim up the waistline. Brown adipose tissue (AKA brown fat) is a type of fat found in the bodies of mammals that acts as a furnace for the body. Once thought to only be present in newborns and hibernating mammals, research has shown we all have it, more or less. Not only does brown fat work like a furnace to produce heat when the body gets cold, but its fuel source is that of white fat, the kind we hate and want less of.
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Here’s to getting cold!

Catherine Bares

Turn on Internal Furnace

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Watching Fish to Treat Hyper Active Children & Alzheimer’s Patients?

Researchers at the University of Pennsylvania report that quietly watching fish swimming in an aquarium eases stress, and may offer a means of treating high blood pressure.

Researchers say that the fish are the key . People who watch fish tanks with bubbles, pebbles and plants – but no fish – don’t benefit nearly as much.

“There is a sharp difference,” says ecologist Alan Beck, director of the university’s Center for the Interaction of Animals and Society. “Blood pressure drops with fishless fish tanks, but it doesn’t drop as much and it creeps back up faster. With fish in the tanks, you truly get relaxation.”

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Do you have a stressful life, high blood pressure, insomnia? Keeping an aquarium may be good therapy for you. Studies going back as far as the late 80’s have shown that gazing at aquarium fish reduces stress and subsequently lowers blood pressure.

Multitude of Benefits-Seniors who were provided with an aquarium filled with fish had significant blood pressure reduction. Watching fish has been shown to calm children who suffer from hyperactivity disorder. Dental patients who were subjected to hypnosis vs. an aquarium experienced the same or greater benefit from the aquarium. Other studies have shown that dental patients required less pain medication after having watched fish in the office. It’s little wonder that physician offices, dental clinics, and even waiting rooms for counselors have traditionally kept an aquarium in the waiting room.

Aquarium Effect on Alzheimer’s-Studies have shown that seniors who have Alzheimer’s experience a variety of health benefits from watching an aquarium. Alzheimer patients ate more, and required fewer supplements after an aquarium was placed in the dining room. They also exhibited less physically aggressive behaviors.

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Healthier Eating Habits

Pitfalls when trying to eat healthier

When it comes to eating healthier there are many pitfalls that can derail our attempts, sometimes we may not even realize we are being derailed.

  • False claims on packaging
  • Wordplay to hide true ingredients
  • Consumer belief systems on what is “natural”
  • The convenient factor
  • Busy lifestyles

Take steps to eat and live healthier

The key to healthier eating is awareness. I find sticking to natural food sources yields the best results for me. Hydration is also important when living a healthier lifestyle.

Tips on taking steps to eat healthier:

  • Carry water everywhere you go. Read my blog on the importance of drinking water. Even the slightest dehydration can sabotage eating habits.  For me, I carry a sports bottle with water from my home.  Bottled water has been proven to have poison that seeps into the water from the plastic under certain conditions. I prefer to stay clear of bottled water as much as I can. Click here to read 5 dangers lurking in bottled water (&7 healthier alternatives)
  • Keep boiled eggs in the fridge for an easy grab on the go snack.  I boil them, peel and store them in an airtight container.  That way, all I have to do is grab it when in a pinch for time.
  • Pre-plan meals.  I am a crockpot queen and cook just about anything in my crockpot.  If in need of recipes, Google slow cooker recipes. There are some good recipes out there; some may even surprise you.  I came across this recipe that cooks a 3-course meal at once.  Steaks, potatoes, and corn on the cob. What a concept?
  • I do not eat fast food. When I take a Road trip, I pack a small ice chest with fresh fruit, Greek yogurt, sandwiches, cheese, etc.  It saves time while traveling, limiting the necessary stops, and is much easier on the pocketbook. It also helps keep me on the lighter side of total calorie consumption for me and my family.
  • I started bringing my lunch to work every day, many years ago. I try to prepare it the night before; oftentimes my lunch would be leftovers from supper so I would pack up my lunch while cleaning the kitchen in the evenings. It keeps my costs down, keeps me on track with my healthier eating goal, and helps me control total calorie consumption. (quality calories vs. empty calories)
  • When I eat out, I take it easy on the lagniappe chips and bread. My husband and I usually split the entrée. When dining alone, I order small plates (appetizers, soup, or salad) or I ask for a to-go plate when my food arrives.  I get some strange looks when asking for a to-go plate before I start eating but it assures me that I won’t overeat. I don’t start eating until I put half of the meal in the to-go plate. Portion sizes at restaurants have gotten out of control. Another good tip is to review a restaurants menu online, before arrival so you can prepare for what you are going to order.
  • I often wondered why meat at a restaurant is always so juicy. I discovered that most meats at restaurants are marinated in oil overnight to keep the meat from drying out during cooking. Once I learned that I started ordering my meat with no oil or butter. It takes longer for the orders to come out since the chef has to prepare a fresh piece of meat, so learn to be patient.
  • I Limit alcohol consumption by ordering a glass of water with my drink. My goal is to drink a glass of water for every glass of alcohol.  Limits calories and helps prevent hangovers. Water also fills you up more thwarting the desire to keep filling your belly.
  • I don’t eat microwave popcorn. I buy the kernels and pop them on the stove using virgin coconut oil and then toss in sea salt.  The trick to not overstuffing a pot is to put enough kernels to cover the bottom of the pot with a single layer of kernels. Very little oil is needed. Want to add flavor? I add cinnamon and cayenne pepper for a spicy flavor. You can also cook with Olive oil and a couple drops of butter extract for that buttery taste. Get creative.
  • Cook Brown rice instead of white rice, or use riced cauliflower in its place. Minute rice has good brown rice and its quick and easy.
  • Mashup 1/2 an avocado and put in beans instead of rice.  Large white Lima’s are my favorite to add avocado but it works with any beans.
  • Limit sugar and stay away from artificial sweeteners.  Regardless of the product claims, recent studies have shown artificial sweeteners are harmful to your health.  Do the research and decide for yourself.
  • When buying packaged products. look for brands with fewer ingredients listed.  Remember to read the nutritional information and the ingredient lists. The ingredients are listed in order of the most content it contains to the least content.  If the package claims to be low in sugar, see where the ingredient falls in the lists. I have found that some packages boast low sugar but it may be the 1st or 2nd listed ingredient. The more ingredients listed the more skeptical you should be.
  • Stay active: take the stairs, walk the dog, dance, play tag with the kids, perform squats while folding clothes out of the drier, park further out in parking lots, stand up and stretch after sitting long periods of time.

Do the research

I am not a registered nutritionist, just someone who wants to lead a healthy lifestyle with access to the internet. Verify findings, look for credible information. Make an appointment with a licensed nutritionist. Start small and work more habits in daily and weekly.

Here’s to a happier, healthier life!

Catherine Bares

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Just so Happens-Look what I came across today.

Sugar is slipped into everything

And boy, do we mean everything. Ketchup, salad dressings, protein bars, and numerous “healthy” snacks are loaded with the sweet stuff. When manufacturers dump it into our food supply, It’s often labeled under the guise of high fructose corn syrup, dehydrated cane syrup, sucrose, turbinado, malodextrin, dextrose and more. People tend to think of desserts as a sign that they’re in for a dose of the addictive ingredient, but one look at these 23 Restaurant Foods With Crazy-High Amounts of Sugar will make you realize how it’s hiding everywhere.

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Sugar is Addictive

Sugar is addictive; according to all of the studies and research that I have read over the past couple of years.  Undoubtedly, I fight sugar addiction daily, it’s like a drug for me.  The more I get the more I want.

I read a book called “Belly Fat-Free” by Josh Bezoni.  While there are many “Obesity Additives” that Josh discusses in his book, “sugar is public enemy number one”.  He calculates that an average American eats 140 pounds of sugar per year, about 173 grams per day.

Let’s take a look at soft drinks, energy drinks, Frappuccino, and fruit juices to name a few.    A 12-oz portion that shows 40 grams of sugar in the nutritional content is equivalent to 10 teaspoons of sugar. (10 TEASPOONS)   (A very popular brand of Frappuccino has 31 grams of sugar in a 9.5-ounce bottle.  They proudly claim on the front of the bottle, 200 calories per bottle.  What they don’t say, is that all of those calories are pure sugar.)


Daily recommended amount

The American Heart Association recommends limiting sugar intake to no more than half of your daily “discretionary calories” (added sugars and solid fats in food, drinks, and alcoholic beverages): No more than 100 calories per day for women (about 6 teaspoons per day) and no more than 150 calories per day for men (9 teaspoons per day).  One 12 ounce drink has more than the recommended daily allowance.  I don’t know about you but, I can name people in my life that consume several energy drinks per day.  Keep in mind this is discretionary calories. According to Josh Bezoni’s Belly Fat-Free research, most women should consume no more than a total of 25 grams of sugar per day and men, no more than a total of 37.5 grams of sugar per day.   High intake of added sugar is linked to many poor health conditions:

  • Obesity
  • High blood pressure
  • Diabetes
  • Higher risk for heart disease
  • Higher risk for Stroke
  • Depression


  • Seek out nutritional information.  Read the sugar content in everything you eat and drink.  Sugar is hiding in everything. “Low Fat” products are stuffed with sugar; read the labels. I was shocked to learn that the skim milk I was drinking had 12 grams of sugar.  MILK? Really? 
  • Start cutting back-with addictions comes withdrawal side effects.  When I made the decision to cut back on sugar I suffered mood swings, cravings, headaches, and nausea. BE SURE TO SEE A DOCTOR OR LICENSED NUTRITIONISTS BEFORE  MAKING DRASTIC CHANGES.  IT’S PROBABLY BEST TO START  TAPERING DOWN SLOWLY TO AVOID HEALTH CONCERNS. THIS IS NOT A JOKE. 
  • BEFORE DRASTICALLY CUTTING BACK, SEE A DOCTOR.  Have a blood test performed and seek advice on how to cut back safely.  There may be some underlying health concerns from chronic sugar abuse that may need some medical attention.
  • Chase the Devil out of your pantry-throw away processed food with high sugar content.  Stick to natural food sources such as meat, fruit, vegetables, etc.

The Best Side Affect

The best side effect you will experience while cutting back on sugar (my favorite) is the loss of belly fat and total weight.

I had a friend that made the decision to improve his health after a scare from a routine physical.  He hired a personal trainer and started eating better which yielded fast results.  Then, he hit a plateau and was getting terribly frustrated.  So I asked him what are you eating?  He replied, “I feel like I am starving myself. I drink nothing but smoothies.”  While he thought he was being healthy in drinking smoothies, he was actually sabotaging his efforts.  Do you know how much sugar is in smoothies?  So I encouraged him to eat real, natural food.  Whole fruit, veggies, meat, etc.  He then successfully went on to hit his goal weight and impressed the heck out of his personal trainer.

What changes are you willing to make to cut back on your sugar intake? Start small, make a decision today on one item that you can cut out of your daily diet. Once you successfully implement one change, make another.

Catherine Bares 


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