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Does your child have any Intense Interests?

Obsessed with Dinosaurs

I came across an article, on psychology-spot.com, that I found interesting and I wanted to share it.  “Being obsessed with dinosaurs enhances kids’ intelligence”.

The article explains that the incredible knowledge of children on a specific subject is called “Intense Interests”, a strong motivation for a specific topic. “In fact, a third of children develop at some stage throughout their childhood, as a general rule between 2 and 6 years of age…”

In some cases, that interest is not extinguished in childhood but accompanies them for a large part of their lives.  They are those people who have always had a passion that, in a certain way, has served as a guiding thread and refuge over the years.

In reality, it does not matter what the object of that passion is, what is really important is the effort that children dedicate, and the passion they experience.

An investigation carried out at the universities of Indiana and Wisconsin proved that intense interests are very beneficial for the intellectual development of children.

In practice, this type of interest, especially those that demand a conceptual domain as is the case of dinosaurs, not only make that the child have more knowledge about a certain subject but also enhance perseverance, improve attention and enhance skills of complex thinking as the processing of information. It has also been proven that linguistic skills are significantly improved and are an indicator of high understanding.

In fact, these psychologists explain that the way in which some children study dinosaurs or any other object of interest, in reality, reveals the strategy that they will then use to face new situations and problems throughout their lives.

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The wall against which intense interests clash

An investigation carried out by psychologists from the universities of Virginia and Yale, revealed that the intense interests in childhood do seem to be mediated by the interests of the parents since they usually appear during the first year of life without the parents having encouraged them.  In fact, some of those interests are rare for the parents themselves.

The bad news…Only 20% of children are still passionate about the same issues as they grow up.  In most cases, the end of passion comes with schooling.

Apparently, when children start studying, they have much less free time to devote to their “investigations”.  To this is added that they understand that school requires a broader knowledge but also more superficial and often their interests do not fit within the school curriculum, so they just end up abandoning them.

Click on the link (the article title) to read the article in its entirety. It has suggestions on how to nurture these intense interests.

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#Happiness

 

A green two-way street sign with arrows and the words You Decide

Happiness does not come without Stress, Hardships, Heartaches and Regrets.  It comes In-Spite of them.

You have to make a decision to let yourself drive towards happiness and not let all of the ugliness of your life drive you. It takes:

  • Daily meditation of positivism
    • reading inspirational books
    • looking for positive quotes each day to focus on
  • Setting goals in your life
    • Starting with today.  What do I want to get accomplished today?
  • Keeping your eye on the prize
    • you decide what the prize is; completing your to do list, accomplishing a long term goal, etc.
  • Removing negativity from your life. (sometimes that may be a person)
  • Realize that when people are snapping at you or being rude, that is usually a symptom of their problems (don’t make them yours)
  • Celebrate the successes no matter how small or large they are
    • tell a friend who you share your struggles with
    • turn on a happy song and dance while reciting “I did it!”

We celebrate with children when they accomplish something small and large.  When my one year old grandson has developed a new motor skill, such as walking, we clap and say “yay”.  That becomes culture and when he does something that he thinks deserves a celebration, he starts clapping and says “yay” while anticipating that I will celebrate with him.  And I always do.

Along the way to adulthood we tend to lose that mentality and focus on the things that we and other people do wrong.  In the most severe cases this can lead to depression and other health problems.

Changing this mentality, that has slowly become culture, takes effort; sometimes it takes a great deal of effort.  But, when you put forth the effort, it then becomes habit which leads to a newly developed Culture.  Get started today by looking for the bright side of every situation you find yourself getting aggravated with and build on it.

Catherine Bares

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#One of the Best Things About Time Away is Returning Home

Taking a “time-out” and getting away for fun and relaxation is a figurative reset button for me.  Spending quality time with the family is priceless.  I spent a day at the beach with tow (2) of my grandsons.  It was the tow (2) year olds first trip to the beach.  He had a blast!  It was a bittersweet, Déjà vu moment for me.  Sitting there watching my young grandsons run around, soaking up the rays and the waves, I couldn’t help but think back to those moments when I had my boys out there enjoying that same quality time.   It is hard to believe how long ago that was my boys running through the water, building sand castles, flying kites, feeding the seagulls and just enjoying the moment. It almost brought tears to my eyes.

My advice to young parents:  No matter how stressful life is and no matter how busy you are, find a way to fit in quality family time.  You will treasure those moments later in life; I know I do!

Catherine Bares

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#Exercise for the Brain

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Did you know that physical activity is just as beneficial to the mind as it is to the body?

  • One study found that #physically fit people are better able to focus, “as measured by a challenging cognitive task.”  That’s good news in a world full of technological distractions!
  • Students who participated in a “dynamic morning exercise program” nearly doubled their #reading scores. Another study found that after 30 minutes on a #treadmill, students solved math problems up to 10% more effectively.
  • Taking a walk in a natural setting (as opposed to an urban environment) soothes anxiety and improves working memory performance.
  • The “biochemical cascade” triggered by #endurance training helps the brain to create new neurons that enhance plasticity and maintain memory and cognitive skills.
  • For every flight of stairs climbed daily, brain age decreases by 0.58 years.
  • Regular bouts of #moderate cardiovascular exercise appear to boost the size of the hippocampus, the brain area involved in verbal memory and learning.

**source-June 2016 edition of Idea Fitness Journal (Idea fitnographic by Joy Keller and Lisa Quigley.

Catherine Bares

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#The Power of Laughter

Good Morning All,

Laughter truly is good medicine. Every time I listen to this audio clip it brings a smile to my face.

“8 Reasons why laughter really is the best medicine:”  as found on www.activebeat.com

  1. Laughter is a natural pain killer.
  2. Laughter strengthens your heart.
  3. Laugh to ward off disease.
  4. Laughter tones your abs.
  5. Laughter boosts immunity.
  6. Laughter decreases blood pressure.
  7. Laughter banishes stress.
  8. Laughter helps those suffering from depression.

To read the article in it’s entirety, click on the title line and follow the next buttons.

Here’s to laughing more!

Catherine Bares

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#Anger is:

Anger Is:

  • Addictive
  • Biased
  • Careless
  • Dangerous
  • Depressing
  • Destructive
  • EASY
  • Egotistical
  • Exhausting
  • Fragile
  • Habitual
  • Heavy
  • Hurtful
  • Harmful
  • Insulting
  • Obtrusive
  • Offensive
  • Reactive
  • Resentful
  • Scary
  • Selfish
  • Sickening
  • Ugly
  • Useless
  • Vindictive

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Do you listen to understand or to react?

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”-Steven R. Covey

Listening is a skill.  As business leaders, parents, spouses and friends it’s easy to get stuck in our own heads and listen with the intent to reply.  If we listen with the intent to understand where a person is coming from and understand the “why’s” behind the conversation, it empowers us to be better managers, advisors, spouses and friends.

Leave a comment: do you listen to reply?  if so, how will you work towards improving your skill of listening with the intent to understand?

Happy Monday

Catherine Bares

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Guilt Weighing you Down?

I am a “self guilter”.  No need for anyone to guilt me because I am good enough at it, as is.  Granted, guilt is not something I shoot for but, sometimes it can be overwhelming.  Learning how to manage “feeling bad” about not succeeding in goals, to do lists and time management is difficult but, is a part of my daily, self improvement goals.

According to John M. Grohol, Psy.D.,

“Guilt is an emotional warning sign that most people learn through their normal childhood social development. Its purpose is to let us know when we’ve done something wrong, to help us develop a better sense of our behavior and how it affects ourselves and others. It prompts us to re-examine our behavior so that we don’t end up making the same mistake twice.”

How do I manage my guilt?  I start with a plan for the day.  1st thing in the morning I create two (2) “to do lists”.

  1. What is required to complete today
  2. What would be great if I could complete today

As I work through my lists, I highlight and check off the completed tasks and give myself a little Wahoo! As a result, I feel accomplished and receive a little joy in my day.

Things I consider:

  • How important is the task?
  • Realistically, do I have time to accomplish the task?
  • How would it feel if I were to accomplish the task?
  • If something doesn’t work out for the day, can I move it to tomorrow?

Recognizing that my thoughts control my feelings, I push out negative, self-degrading thoughts and try to replace it with positive thoughts.  During management training over the years, I came across the concept to replace every negative thought with 5 positive thoughts.  In doing so, I discovered how easily that strategy can turn things around.

If all else fails and I end up feeling guilty about something, I forgive myself and move forward.  🙂

Here’s to guilt free living.

Catherine Bares

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What has “being a grandmother” taught me?

What has being a Grandmother taught me?

  • There are extra rooms in my heart 🙂
  • I loved my children with all of my heart but didn’t fully appreciate the joy that brings
  • As a young parent, I was caught up in chasing my dreams, working to become the person that I am today and overlooked enjoying the little moments on a deeper level.

What did I learn from my first grandchild?

  • I wasn’t too young to be a grandmother.
  • I was in the middle of the “circle” of my life.
  • A greater appreciation for being a mom
  • The heartbreak when he moved away.
  • Joy when he came back.
  • I have a weekend buddy to hang out with that never cancels.

What did I learn from my second grandchild?

  • I can love him as much as the first.
  • This is fun!
  • Mickey Mouse Rocks!
  • How my mom felt when I had my 2nd child.
  • My patience level is still tested.

What have I learned with my 3rd grandchild?

  • My youngest son is having kids; I’m getting old (NOT-I’m still in denial on this one)
  • We are a “boy” producing, family. (All boys)
  • The rooms in my heart are getting bigger, not smaller.
  • Mickey Mouse Rocks at 2 months old.
  • Life kicks into high gear and keeps on rolling.
  • I love my Boys!

Advice for my Boys!

  • As George Strait once said, “Hold on to your hats, it’s going to be a wild ride.”
  • Seek the reasons behind their behavior; the behavior is usually a symptom.
  • Boys will be boys-you were there, remember?
  • They are children.  They will misbehave, do silly things, and get on your nerves-don’t take it too seriously.
  • Hug them; they are boys but, still need hugs.
  • Praise them when they do good.
  • Teach them to say “yes Ma’am”, “no Ma’am”, “yes sir”, “no sir”, “God bless you”, “please” and “thank you”
  • Teach them how to hold a door open for a lady.
  • Never tell them you are tired of them.
  • Last but not least, just listen to them.  Even when they are babbling and making no sense, give them your attention and just listen.

Update: Grandchild # 4. Yep, It’s a Girl!

What am I learning with my 4th grandchild (granddaughter)

  • As Sean Connery once said, “Never say never”. It’s a Girl!
  • Yep, I keep adding onto the rooms in my heart.
  • Time flies.
  • A 1-week old baby’s smile is the cutest thing ever.
  • Even dogs get excited about the birth of a baby. He becomes alert and concerned whenever he hears her cry.
  • I don’t know how to buy girlie, baby clothes.
  • My worry level has no ceiling.
  • My desire to be a better person for my kids and grandkids keeps growing.
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